Title: The PFLAG Conference
Author: [personal profile] senmut
Prompt: Dorothy Zbornak goes into a bar and meets... Julia Sugarbaker (Designing Women)!
Fandoms: The Golden Girls / Designing Women
Word count: 587
Rating: General Audiences
Contents: The situation for support for Southern queers has not changed since the era of these shows and that is referenced here.

The PFLAG Conference

As far as conferences and political rallies went, Dorothy was glad this one seemed to be staying at a civil discourse. Not, she amended in her own thoughts, that she wasn't ready to blaze truth across narrow-minds in a hope of seeing people live better, stronger lives in the open. She had to stand up for all of her principles, and was glad that joining PFLAG had given her a new outlet to do so.

Still, it had been a long day, and while she wasn't given to drinking much, a nightcap would settle her muscles down, giving her a better chance for sleep in the hotel's luxurious bed. She slipped into more casual, but still classy, attire, picked up her clutch, and headed down to the bar. It might even give her a chance to mingle with others of like minds.

If she found some of different minds, she had a piece or two of her own she'd be able to give out.





Julia Sugarbaker had been brewing on a storm since early that morning. It was bad enough that Georgia didn't have a proper organization to help the young men and women suffering from vitriol and hate, but she'd run into one too many damned Yankees tossing around their patronizing looks about even attempting to get one set up!

She straightened out her blouse, adjusted the sleeve at the wrists, and then snatched up her purse rather than stay in this ridiculously ill-decorated hotel room. She'd seen a bar downstairs. A nice little cocktail hour would help bring her down from her anger, and leave her more likely to find the right words on where to tell the next New York organizer where they could stick their disbelief in gay rights for the South!





Dorothy had seen the brunette going into one of the conference rooms earlier in the day. The decided emphasis on how the woman sat at the bar next to her spoke of difficulties.

"You're here with the PFLAG conference, yes?" Dorothy asked after the woman had a mint julep in front of her, while playing with the straw in her Long Island Iced Tea.

"I am here attempting to convince them to invest in my geographical region instead of writing us all off under the heels of those — " The woman cut herself off completely, took a deep breath. "Yes," she answered instead. "Julia Sugarbaker."

Dorothy raised an eyebrow. "The Julie Sugarbaker who was thanked in Representative Sugarbaker's speech last week?"

Julia softened her stance. "You pay attention to Washington, I take it, ma'am?"

"Dorothy Zbornak. Trying to put more effort into my ideals these days.

"And yes. Helping keep my chapter informed of events, since I have more free time."

"Were you instrumental in organization, or did you step in later? And either way, would you be willing to share any tips? The idiot I spoke to today doesn't feel there is any room in Georgia for them."

Dorothy sighed. "There are so many places in Florida that need outreach, and we run into that there. Or upstate New York, because no, the entire state does not follow the city's lead," she agreed, sympathizing. "I would be glad to work with you, and talk about how to get the support you need."

Julia smiled broadly. "Then Ms. Zbornak, I am looking forward to getting to know you."

"Likewise. Someone willing to stand up when the deck is stacked that way is the kind of woman I'd like to know," Dorothy agreed.
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([personal profile] ysobel posting in [community profile] agonyaunt Jun. 15th, 2025 12:35 pm)
Dear Miss Manners: After several decades of typing on keyboards, I have lost my ability to write nicely by hand. My solution is to send electronic notes — for expressing appreciation, recognizing significant events, etc.

There are several lovely e-card forms available. Using them results in more timely responses, as well as significant savings over printed cards and postage.

I feel it would be nice if Miss Manners would acknowledge that electronic thank-yous are as valid as handwritten in today’s communication environment. Any thank-you is better than no thank-you at all.


Sorry, but you will have to snatch the fountain pen out of Miss Manners’ cold, lifeless hand before she agrees that electronic messages are as meaningful as handwritten ones.

She will concede, however, that any response is better than no response (has it really come to this?) as long as the sentiment itself is not computer-generated. “Thank you for the (insert present) that you gave me. It was very special and/or significant” is not fooling anyone.

As for your argument about saving money? Miss Manners highly doubts that the dozen or so letters you write annually is anywhere near the equivalent cost of the computer that you no doubt replace every few years.

[WaPo link]
Happy book birthday to Rachel Ash Rosen's Blight, second in the Sleep of Reason trilogy.

I am excited to see this book in the world! The author is Known to Me as a fine stylist and a word-puncher on behalf of this often desperate global conspiracy we call trying to keep our human hearts alive.

(I consulted on the future aquatic subduction of my home city for this series and have no regrets.)

What is this book about? I will quote:

anti-fascism, revolution, queer longing, and like, giant fucking bone tentacles.

Would you like to read about a different end to the world? One in which, the characters, like you, have survived and find ways to make meaning and keep fighting after unimaginable loss?

Maybe you will like it, in that case.


(I was tempted to remove the "maybe" there, but my training tells me not to alter the sense of a quotation. Anyway. You will like it.)

Places to order Blight:

From the publisher

From the big river with all the books

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([personal profile] senmut Jun. 15th, 2025 12:21 am)
Mary Dell (Tanner) (Allen) Shipp June 15, 1925 to August 28, 2015 (aged 90).
Miss you Grammy )
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([personal profile] senmut Jun. 14th, 2025 10:26 pm)
*\o/* Word Count Step Count Headache?
Daily 520 12,000 yes
Monthly 7,700 146,446 2 days
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([personal profile] conuly posting in [community profile] agonyaunt Jun. 14th, 2025 06:40 pm)
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1. Dear Eric: I have three adult children. About three years ago there was an issue, and my oldest, Doug, and middle, Linda, disrespected each other. It wasn't a small issue, but (in my and my wife's opinion) it wasn't a huge offense.

Neither will apologize. They refuse to speak to each other.

We have tried many ways to try and bridge the gap, to no success. I'm not asking for them to kiss and make up. I'm just saying, "Be cordial, be humane to other people in our house."

We host holiday meals, and birthday parties at our house, and this animosity really hurts and makes the dynamics difficult. Even seating at the table needs to be arranged.

Recently, I told my wife, "Only people that are willing to be humane and cordial will be invited to family meals." My wife doesn't want to do that, in part she fears losing access to grandchildren. I said, "Fine, for Easter meals they can be jerks but for Christmas they have to be cordial. I'll just go upstairs because it's too painful to be there. And you can't holler at me for being a jerk, because you don't holler at them for being jerks."

Am I asking too much?

– Stressed Father


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2. Dear Eric: My fiancé and I had to move back into his parents due to the crippling economy. My problem lies with his father. He is fully disabled and stubborn. He has been getting up to use the bathroom, which would be OK if he could do it properly. He can't; he urinates all over the floor.

We have told him multiple times that, due to us having a child in the home, I always end up cleaning it, but I never get reimbursed. I'm seriously considering calling Adult Protective Services on grounds of self-neglect. He will not take showers as well and is a suicide risk. My issue is I want to call but I don't want to be a problem starter in a family that's already called Department of Children and Family Services on me out of pettiness. What would you do?

– In-Law Struggles


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([personal profile] kaberett Jun. 14th, 2025 11:59 pm)

Item the first: I have no idea what the hell made the ominous donk-slither-donk noise in the portaloo at about midnight last night, but the phone I'd convinced myself it was was in a neat little pile with my laptop, in the tent, in the morning -- after I'd spent some time being sad about inadequate backups of photos of tiny sleepy rhinos -- which was an enormous relief (though I am also very pleased with myself for how well I handled things). (Especially given that my conviction that this was what had happened was in part based on being as aware as I could be of how abruptly my cognitive function had deteriorated with Surprise Unscheduled Migraine Onset.) (Still haven't worked out what on earth the donk-slither-donk was, but it's none of the obvious Truly Upsetting things to have lost, so I'm Currently Fine With This.)

Item the second: it is hot. This field contains lots of chamomile, and also lots of people. I am really enjoying the way it smells.

Item the third: I am really enjoying the dark chocolate + salt + nuts snack bars that crew welfare is providing, which I'd not previously noticed.

Item four: THE HALBARD THAT IS A SHARK.

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([personal profile] cvirtue Jun. 14th, 2025 07:42 pm)

Grandiloquent Word of the Day https://www.facebook.com/GrandiloquentWords?__cft__[0]=AZX8S0GF5tayhhpeRWWSuLF7hVq0Wk-WITHY8Iyg89rX8WAm-oh5ggjZepfbEIUR2wo5XxiSANwKd1Nw1rwrb4OaMzpHUzZ_mIE3l9EUfJbWwNTq5UVV7nZ1exZNfHZnbSw-xrm09aTyZnP1xkoB71ibUcls2tgirB-gGjR5LnlIkcer6Pq51IZuw4vB_hqPL--wah1OsskhodJQyizlDPPq0Q-3SSsN6B-m5x0ehbR0soDAAZZcBp9izKWHOMrIRrk&__tn__=-UC*F (On BlueSky, FB, and other platforms) Zabernism [ZAB-ur-niz-im] (n.) - Unjustified or unwarranted use of military authority; military jackbootery; abusive bullying.

From the German name for Saverne, a town in Alsace. Originated from an incident in 1912 involving an overzealous soldier who killed a cobbler for smiling at him.

Used in a sentence: “The fascist leader’s deployment of soldiers against the very citizens it was meant to protect will always be remembered as vainglorious zabernism.”

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([personal profile] conuly Jun. 14th, 2025 04:04 pm)
Minnesota House DFL leader Hortman, husband killed in apparent ‘politically motivated’ shooting; Sen. Hoffman, wife wounded

Authorities still searching for suspect in shooting of 2 Minnesota state lawmakers

Apparently he dressed up like a cop, because of course he did, and residents are advised not to open the door to police unless there are multiple officers present. I'd go one step further and say that you should never open the door to an unexpected official until you've confirmed that they're supposed to be there. If they are legit, they have an ID, and you have a phone number you can call - your local precinct, if they're cops, your gas company, whoever it is. (Uh. Maybe step out the back door to call if they say they're from the gas company. I mean, use your best judgment.)
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([personal profile] conuly Jun. 14th, 2025 04:01 pm)
If I'm typing a URL and I then use the scroll wheel to middle-click it in the address window it will open in a new tab rather than on the same tab I'm on.

Now, when I open a new tab by clicking a link to open a new tab it opens right next to the tab I'm on. If I do it via the address window or the new tab button then it opens all the way at the end of my tabs, which is annoying and disorienting if I'm not already all the way at the end.

Is there a setting, perhaps in about:config, that I can adjust to change this behavior so it always opens new tabs next to the one I'm on?
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([personal profile] cvirtue Jun. 14th, 2025 03:34 pm)
All of that 3.5% have to keep active/mobilize/write/phone etc.

"The '3.5% rule': How a small minority can change the world
BBC, 2019

Nonviolent protests are twice as likely to succeed as armed conflicts – and those engaging a threshold of 3.5% of the population have never failed to bring about change.

In 1986, millions of Filipinos took to the streets of Manila in peaceful protest and prayer in the People Power movement. The Marcos regime folded on the fourth day.

In 2003, the people of Georgia ousted Eduard Shevardnadze through the bloodless Rose Revolution, in which protestors stormed the parliament building holding the flowers in their hands. While in 2019, the presidents of Sudan and Algeria both announced they would step aside after decades in office, thanks to peaceful campaigns of resistance.

In each case, civil resistance by ordinary members of the public trumped the political elite to achieve radical change.

There are, of course, many ethical reasons to use nonviolent strategies. But compelling research by Erica Chenoweth, a political scientist at Harvard University, confirms that civil disobedience is not only the moral choice; it is also the most powerful way of shaping world politics – by a long way. Read more... )
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([personal profile] conuly Jun. 17th, 2025 11:25 am)
The last season of The Strange Case of the Starship Iris is finally here.

Okay, only the first episode so far (and two pre-season teasers) but... omg.

I've summed this one up for you all before as "Everybody is gay while fighting fascism in space" and "Turns out, fascism is both racist and inefficient", so yes, that does make it the perfect thing to listen to while heading out to protest. (Speaking of....)

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([personal profile] cvirtue Jun. 14th, 2025 01:10 pm)

The word from organizers seems to be that we had 350 people in a town of 10,000. Photo of my sign and "No Kings" royalty outfit. [image: image.png]

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([personal profile] senmut Jun. 13th, 2025 11:03 pm)
1990, [redacted a lot of depressing anecdata]. Let's just roll the credits, hmm? Nine movies because I was choosy... and honestly don't have much to say about movies of this year.

~ Tremors - AWW YEAH a hella good creature feature. To be honest? This was like catching old 50s B movies on TBS, because those creature features were my kind of camp horror comedy.
~ The Hunt for Red October - I can't remember much of this film, but there were some pretty people in it.
~ Ghost - +sighs+ Patrick and Whoopi, I loved. I am still on a fence about Demi's acting, but she's pretty.
~ Quigley Down Under - the movie that reinforced lessons I had begun studying due to "Beds are Burning" by Midnight Oil. It's also the movie that put Alan Rickman on my radar properly. I love his villainy here.
~ The Rescuers Down Under - Hmm, two Aussie based movies for me this year? MARAHUTE! Not quite mixing the adventure and scary like the first, but a DAMN GOOD FILM.
~ Predator 2 - So I enjoy the first. So much. BUT THIS?! This movie started solidifying actual lore for me (BLESS DARK HORSE COMICS) and the yautja in this one is BADASS.
~ Mermaids - A really sweet film, and the cast? +faints+ Hoskins, Cher, Ryder, Ricci? Excellent. A little angst and harm to children warning.
~ Hamlet - So I rather hate putting this on the list. And I know it is seriously panned. But honestly? Seeing this in the theater, watching EVERY ACTOR CHEW THE SCENERY? Made me delighted at an above the top performance. Just wish the fucker in the lead role wasn't... himself.
~ Kindergarten Cop - Sweet. Funny. Dramatic at parts. "It's naht a too-mah" Was surprised when I went back to find that his partner that was supposed to do the teaching and got sick was Iza from Clan of the Cave Bear.

Fave? Toss up between Predator 2 and Kindergarten Cop.
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([personal profile] pauamma posting in [site community profile] dw_volunteers Jun. 13th, 2025 10:56 pm)
I'm listening to thunder rumbling in the distance, and hoping the thunderstorms forecasted for tonight will bring the temperature down from today's mid-30s Celsius.

How is everyone else doing?
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([personal profile] oriolegirl Jun. 13th, 2025 04:09 pm)
1) how the hell is it Friday?
2) this has not been a great Friday

Things to look forward to:
a) the forecast is now clear of rain on Sunday so I should be able to take myself over to the H-Mart
b) new ep of Art Detectives drops on Acorn on Monday
c) last Quantum Bang stories get posted over the weekend

Art Detectives is a somewhat typical British police procedural, except there are very high levels of nerdiness with the DI. There were points in ep 2 where I thought he might've totally forgotten about the murder. He didn't but yeah, historical nerdiness. It's quite fun. Although, as it seems with most British mystery series, the DI has a (somewhat) criminal father - as opposed to a long-missing wife, which appears to be the other trope.
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([personal profile] senmut Jun. 13th, 2025 03:00 pm)
Dragged to Fabulous (200 words) by Sharpest_Asp
Chapters: 1/1
Fandom: DCU [Comics]
Rating: General Audiences
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Characters: Dick Grayson, Original Human Character(s)
Additional Tags: Pride Parades, Double Drabble
Summary:

Dick gets there in time for Ms. Syl to make him over.



Dragged to Fabulous

"Oh honey, you cannot be seen next to me looking that… plain," the drag queen said when Dick walked in to get ready for the beginning of the parade. "Girlfriend, I know good and well you have something more fabulous in your closet — wish it was me, honestly, but — because I have seen what you wear on your dates!"

Dick smiled, holding up the duffel bag. "Knowing I'd be riding with you, Miss Syl, I figured I'd better bring a few things and let you pick."

Miss Syl put both hands over his heart and made a dramatic sound. "You know just how to flatter a girl." He held his hand out for the bag, dead set on making certain Gotham's younger prince was ready to sparkle at the parade.

"If I promise to keep it toned down and mostly straight, may I do your makeup?" Miss Syl asked as he settled on which outfit would work best.

"Total package," Dick agreed, laughing some.

"Oh I wish. I could show you things those débutantes have never heard of," Miss Syl answered, before setting to the crafting of perfect look for one of their wealthiest allies in all of the city.
([personal profile] swaldman Jun. 13th, 2025 08:05 pm)
In "Simon continues watching kids' shows".... After adoring seasons 1 and 2 of Hilda some years ago, I finally got around to S3 in the last few weeks.

It's less about Hilda, and more about her mother. As such, unfortunately it back-burners a lot of what made the first two episodes so wonderful: the dynamic of the three kids, the whimsy, Hilda's ability to make friends with everything she meets... in tackling darker and more serious themes it becomes a more serious show, and it suffers from it.

Still, it does wrap things up nicely and give the series a satisfying ending. And if you haven't watched Hilda, you really should - at least for S1-2. It takes 2-3 episodes to really get going.
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